The Complete Beginner’s Guide To Personal Development.

Published by Daisy Ogelenya on

       What personal development is.

      So a friend asked what I’d be blogging about and I said personal development. He didn’t quite understand what it means or entails. He’s not alone, I’m sure there are a lot of people who aren’t familiar with the term either. Not to worry, we’ll take care of that, alright? Since we’re going to be using the term or any alias for it on here a lot, I figured I should clarify what exactly it means and entails, especially to you as a student.

“Personal development is a major time-saver. The better you become, the less time it takes you to achieve your goals”. – Brian Tracy.

      What’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear personal development? For me it’s self upgrade, betterment, improvement, growth. You see, it’s the conscious decision to do more with yourself, backed up by strategic plans to go through with it. It’s a process, a journey, what takes you from here, where you are, to the “there” you want. Take a minute to think about where you want yourself in the next, say, five to twenty years. Really, do it.
Done?
Alright.
If what you thought of is anything bigger or better than where you are currently, and I’m assuming it is, personal development is what’s going to get you there. Imagine it’s a beautiful garden and presently you’re merely land that has been allocated for use as the garden. You know all the weeding, fertilizing, planting and nurturing that would transform that plot of land to the beautiful garden we imagined? That’s what we’re talking about! ?
      Personal development, though a generic term, has categories. Some of these categories are family, friends, academics, finances, career, health, and even fun. It basically has to do with aspects of life with room for improvement.

Key things to do to make your self development journey easier.

      You know what they say about not going to the farm without work implements, yeah? The same logic applies here. In your quest to develop yourself, you’d be able to do more if you’re equipped with the right “tools”. Remember it’s a journey, you shouldn’t embark on it empty handed. I compiled some things you should have in place for your journey… Get your suitcase and let’s get packing! ?

1. Have a clear definition of your goal(s):
      What exactly do you want? Where exactly are you going? What is it that you want to achieve? Goal setting is sooo important. This is because it gives you direction, it serves as a compass, a foundation for you to build upon. If you know where you’re going you can then begin to analyze the different routes that would lead you there and choose which to use.

       As you grow it’s possible for your goal to get clearer, a little altered or changed entirely, and that’s okay. What’s important is that you define them as clearly as you can when this happens so you don’t loose sight of them, and so you can map out a new route, if need be.
      I tell people to know their “why”. What motivates you? What’s the reason you want to do what you want to do, be what you want to be? What drives you? What keeps you going? What’s fueling your passion? Why do you want to come up with a solution to that problem? I’ve gotten to understand that if there’s a solid reason for your goal, a burning passion behind it, you’re less likely to give up on it or lose focus.

“He who has a why to live can bear almost any how” – Fredrick Nietzsche. 

2. Surround yourself with the right people:
       There are different angles to this. How can you tell who’s right for you and who’s not? How do you get to meet people that are right for you if you haven’t already? Okay, this is deep enough to be a post on it’s own, maybe I’ll elaborate on it one of these days. For now though, let’s briefly view the right people for you through the lens of people that support/encourage you and people on the same/similar mission as you. Okay? Let’s go.
      Most of us have personal board of directors, whether we’re conscious of it or not. Ideally your personal board of directors is to be made up of people in your inner circle, people that genuinely care for you and want the best for you, people whose opinion matter to you and that you consult on major decisions you make. These guys, I like referring to them as your home team, are supposed to be able to talk to you, help you see reason when you’re being unreasonable without you picking offence. Your home team is also there to encourage you, root for you and celebrate your wins.

     On the other hand, people on the same mission as you are people with similar goals/vision, or people doing the same thing you’re doing. I’d just tell you a story or two to illustrate this point. Some time last year I wanted to volunteer as much as I could, and a good portion of the people I had around me couldn’t understand it. You ever been doing anything you’re hyped about but with so much discouragement from the people around you? It was like that. Then I got to meet other people doing the same stuff, and mannnn, the energy was amazinggg!? Having people to rub minds with about stuff they’re also interested in is gold, to be honest. You’d find yourself getting more excited, inspired and productive. 
      Still on flocking with people on similar mission as you… Iron sharpeneth iron, guys! For a program I’m currently participating in, ISERH undergraduate studies, I have lectures online once or twice weekly, and maybe I wouldn’t have come this far if I wasn’t doing it with a friend. There are days I forget we’re supposed to have a class and he calls to remind me if I’m not online. I do same too. We get to look out for each other, work on projects together, etc. Really, having someone like that is a blessing.
3. Get yourself a mentor:


       A mentor is an individual with more experience than you in any field of your interest, whom you trust, respect, and have a personal relationship with. This relationship entails him/her teaching and guiding you one-on-one. 
      Mentorship is important because you get to learn, first-hand, from people ahead of you what to do and what not to do to get the most out of whatever it is that you’re doing. Experience is the best teacher, no doubt, but it shouldn’t be your own experiences exclusively; be teachable enough to learn from the experience of others. Some mistakes have already been made by others, you don’t need your own personal dose to get the lesson.
4. Get yourself a role model:
       
      No, a role model is not the same as a mentor. A role model is a person you admire, and whose values/style, in a particular area or generally, you’d like to emulate. Let’s just say a role model is someone you want to be like when you “grow up”. ? Oh, by the way, usually there’s no personal relationship between you and your role model. As a matter of fact, it’s common to have a role model that doesn’t even know about your existence…sorry to burst your bubble.?
      So why should you have a role model? A positive role model would set a standard for you, inspire you enough to leave your comfort zone and do all that you can to reach that standard. From them you’d get to learn and emulate values that have gotten them as far as they’ve gotten in life. You’d have someone to look up to, some kind of direction on your journey. The keyword is “positive”, by the way. You’d get the opposite result if you’re looking up to someone with only negative values to offer.
5. Be committed: 
      If you’ve made up your mind to be intentional about developing yourself, commitment is what will see you through. Remember that we don’t stop when we’re tired, we stop when we’re done! ?? 
      Alright, let me wrap it up here. I’d like to hear from you, learn from you too. Any other thing you think should be added to our toolkit? What’s your experience using any? The comment section is open specially for you. ?
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16 Comments

Daisy Ogelenya · May 17, 2020 at 11:52 pm

You're right, Nancita. Persistence and commitment is where the challenge usually lies.

Daisy Ogelenya · May 17, 2020 at 11:41 pm

Stay tuned for it. Thank you. ?

Daisy Ogelenya · May 17, 2020 at 11:32 pm

? you're welcome.

Daisy Ogelenya · May 17, 2020 at 11:31 pm

? good to know.

Daisy Ogelenya · May 17, 2020 at 11:30 pm

Thank you, Joseph.

Joseph · May 6, 2020 at 9:36 pm

Wow…I love your work, and the article about role models is fantastic.Keep it up.

Lexo · May 4, 2020 at 3:32 pm

I'm taking notes…

Anonymous · May 4, 2020 at 3:25 pm

My suitcase is full, thank you ?

Nancita. · May 4, 2020 at 1:24 pm

My fave point is on commitment….cos that's where the main challenge lies… '' we don't stop when we're tired, we stop when we're done!''

Daisy Ogelenya · May 3, 2020 at 6:38 pm

Thanks, I will. ?

Daisy Ogelenya · May 3, 2020 at 6:34 pm

Thank you, and you're welcome. ?

Daisy Ogelenya · May 3, 2020 at 6:21 pm

Thank you. You could subscribe so you don't miss out on anything. ?

Unknown · May 3, 2020 at 5:52 pm

This is a really good initiative. Keep up with the good work

Unknown · May 3, 2020 at 7:32 am

Wow…..this is really nice….looking forward to your next post…..thanks for this tho.

Unknown · May 3, 2020 at 7:32 am

Wow…..this is really nice….looking forward to your next post…..thanks for this tho.

Kelvinfinancials · May 2, 2020 at 10:44 pm

Personal development is something I'm quite intrigued about. Seeing you lay it all out here is pleasing.
It's nice knowing I'm not alone on this path development.
This is a good read. Looking forward to your next post. ✊

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